Wednesday, 16 November 2016

LIES SATAN TELLS AND SCRIPTURES TO OVERCOME THEM


John 8:44 tells us the devil is “a liar and the father of lies.” Often in our lives, the enemy will lie to us to hold us back from being all God has called us to be. That’s why identifying the voice of the enemy is crucial if we are to block him out.
Here are 5 lies that the devil will try to tell you to cancel out the plan God has for your life, along with scriptures to help you combat those lies with the truth of God’s word.
  1. God has not called you. If you know that God has placed a dream in your heart, and has given you the talent and favor to carry it out, don’t let the words of the enemy make you second-guess yourself. 1 Peter 5:8 (NIV) tells us to, “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.”
  2. You can’t do it. This is not true, for the Bible tells us through Christ all things are possible. Philippians 4:13 (NKJV)plainly teaches, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
  3. You are not strong enough. Well, on your own, you are not, but you are not alone! You are armed with God’s strength. Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) says, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Through His power, you can do anything.
  4. You are not equipped. It may not look like it right now, but God has given you all you need to carry out your calling. Ephesians 2:10 NLT says, “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” Because it was preplanned, you have been prepared.
  5. You should be afraid. No, you should not! The word of the Lord says, “For God hath not given us a spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (2 Timothy 1:7 [KJV]).

For every lie the enemy tells, there is truth in the word of God to refute it. Be sure to heed the voice of the Lord by standing steadfastly upon His promises. Unlike Satan, the Bible says in Numbers 23:19 NLT, “God is not human, that he should lie, not a human being, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill it?

Tuesday, 4 October 2016

5 Things to Start Doing By the Time You’re 30

The truth is, everything on this list is worth doing in your twenties (or your teens, if you’re so inclined) but we talk about it like this because though nothing magical happens on your thirtieth birthday, 30 years is enough time to work out some of life's kinks and pick up on some good habits.

All that’s to say, there’s no reason you should have all this mastered by the time you’re 30. But, then again, there’s no reason not to try.

Waking Up Earlier Than You Have To

What do Twitter/Square founder Jack Dorsey, Richard Branson, Apple’s Tim Cook, legendary Vogue editor-in-chief Anna Wintour, Condoleezza Rice and dozens of other successful leaders all have in common? They get out of bed before 6 a.m. every morning. Even Aristotle advocated waking up early, famously quipping, “It is well to be up before daybreak, for such habits contribute to health, wealth, and wisdom.”
Through college and in our twenties, hitting the snooze button is a staple of Saturday mornings and workweek rushing around, but there’s a reason so many influential people get started early. Waking up before you have to lets you find time to pray, exercise or just spend a few minutes alone before the craziness of the day begins.

Actually Caring About What You Eat

Most people in their late twenties have come to the harsh realization that for reasons that are totally unfair, your metabolism has a tendency to slow down with age. Basically, we all will hit a certain age when we can no longer eat an entire pizza and drink four Dr. Peppers without feeling like garbage shortly afterwards. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying life—and some junk food every now and then—but your thirties are a time to create, and sustain, healthy patterns you’ll carry throughout adulthood.


Making Margin in Your Life

By the time you hit 30, there’s a good chance the routine of family, job, bills and adulthood limits the free time that was once a part of twentysomething life. Creating margin—to read, volunteer, pray, travel or just do the things you want to do—is easy to neglect with the stresses that come along with being a thirtysomething. Do yourself a favor: Make margin in your day-to-day life, and don’t try to fill every waking moment with more busyness.

Creating a Pattern of Giving in Your Finances

Life is expensive. Even if you’re settled into a good-paying career by the time you’re 30, paying down student loans, owning a home, buying a car, paying the bills and balancing a checkbook may not leave much left over. But along with your tithes, establishing a pattern of giving (to charities, ministries or even to friends and families in need), can serve as a constant reminder of who your money actually belongs to.

Becoming Friends With People Much Older Than You

For most people, up to your late twenties, most relationships with people much older than yourself are predicated on some sort of authority structure—your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your pastors. But by the time you’re 30, actually becoming friends with people you look up to not only adds new dynamics to mentorship, it also broadens your social circles.
Letting Go of Baggage from Bad Relationships
Don’t let baggage from bad breakups, arguments with old friends or hurtful comments from the past haunt you into your adult life. Even if reconciliation isn’t possible, forgiveness always is.

Reading the News Every Day

Before you can change the world, you have to be informed about the problems facing it. Reading headlines online, listening to NPR or just tuning into the evening news can be a gateway to knowing how to make a difference and instituting real change.

Learning to Unplug

It’s easy to get stuck in a pattern of working long hours, being tied to the phone or just binge watching shows on Netflix during every minute of free time. None of those things are necessarily bad in doses, but if you’re spending your whole life plugged into a device, you may be missing out on some pretty great experiences.

Finding Organizations or Causes to Support Long-Term

Partnering with organizations like WorldReach (who allows you to sponsor children) and Charity: Water (who lets you tell your friends to donate instead of getting you a birthday present every year) or finding a cause like ending human trafficking, supporting education or assisting the homeless can represent more than just one-time gifts or temporary passions. Your 30s are a great time to find causes, organizations and campaigns to be dedicated to throughout your life.
Making Exercise a Lifestyle
You don’t have to join an expensive gym or jump on the next fitness trend bandwagon to make exercise a part of your life. Ride your bike to work. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Join a community sports league with friends. Making exercise a regular part of your schedule helps it to become a lifestyle, not an afterthought or another chore you have to make time for.

Actively Combating Spiritual Complacency

At some point, most Christians will deal with spiritual complacency. We get into a routine, and it’s easy to allow actively trying to grow in your faith to become a side note to the day-to-day realities of adult life. Make it a point to stay challenged spiritually—read good books, stay involved in your church, seek ministry opportunities, get a mentor and a mentee. As other parts of your life grow, make sure your faith does too.

Being Intentional With Relationships

The older you get, the more time becomes a precious commodity. Unlike the college days, when you’d see your buddies between every class, once you get plugged into a job and family life, it can be hard to make time to see your friends. In your twenties and thirties, be intentional about getting together with friends and relatives (who are also probably pretty busy), and invest in relationships over obligations.

Buying Things That Last

For many people in their twenties, paying extra to purchase high-quality items—from clothes and accessories, to furniture and appliances—just isn’t practical as they are settling into new careers and finding their financial footing. But as you save more and become more established in your job, purchasing quality items (and fewer of them because they last so long) puts the emphasis on sustainability and craftsmanship instead of fast fashion disposability.
Source: Relevant Magazine


Monday, 22 August 2016

THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND OBSESSION

As I lead one of the groups at a rural part of Nigeria where idol worship is prevalent, part of the stories we learnt in the group was the Amnon and Tamar story from 2 Samuel 13: 1-22. We tried to visualize and draw out lessons from the story. While doing that, a part of the story caught my attention; Amnon first loved Tamar, then that love turned to obsession and after carrying out his evil plan as advised by Jonadab, he hated her more than he loved her. Yes, I know the difference between love and hatred, I kept wondering what the difference was between love and obsession. So I decided to check out my dictionary as well as sample opinions. I will like to share my findings and summations with you.
Love is defined in “1 Corinthians 13 has been patient, kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”
A friend defined obsession as “an intense desire for someone or something that is self-oriented” and I do agree with him because from context Amnon wanted to satisfy his longing and since he could not fulfill that he looked haggard and miserable and Jonadab noticed this and questioned him which lead to the advice. My intense feeling for someone or something can either be obsession or true love depending on my motive i.e. is it self-oriented or the object/person oriented. Most of us young folks today are caught up between this unconsciously. I can love something or someone, and before I know I become so preoccupied with it to the point that I can go to any length to fulfill that longing even if it means hurting others. We need to keep asking ourselves the question, am I preoccupied with thoughts of this? Is it self-oriented?
Let me drive this down a little further. I can also relate this to my love for Christ. One of the verses that has stayed with me for a while is “John 14: 21 which says Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him." My love for God can turn to obsession if I don’t watch it. Preoccupation with self can cause this; when my prayers are self-centered, my act of service is because I want to get something in return among others. This is pure obsession! If I claim to love God, then it must be all about God not me. I must seek to know and do what is on his heart and mind. I must seek to serve because it’s a priviledge. I must seek to fully know and obey God’s commands no matter how hard that is even if it costs me my life. “Luke 14:26-27 says If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother, his wife and children, his brothers and sisters--yes, even his own life--he cannot be my disciple. And anyone who does not carry his cross and follow me cannot be my disciple.”

Hard teaching right??? This made the difference and shows that I truly love God. This what made the difference for Peter and Co in Acts 4. In verse 18 to 20 “Then they called them in again and commanded them not to speak or teach at all in the name of Jesus. But Peter and John replied, "Judge for yourselves whether it is right in God's sight to obey you rather than God. For we cannot help speaking about what we have seen and heard." The only way our generation can feel the impact of who we are in Jesus, is by displaying our true love for him. 
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Thursday, 18 August 2016

Long Distance Relationships : Proven Ways to Make it Work By Esther Adeniyi

Sad girl in a long distance relationship about to board a train


Long distance relationships may seem to be a lot of work. It might be exciting at first,  but if you are not careful,  you may lose the romance and excitement as time passes. Truth is that love is not dependent on distance. In fact,  the stronger you are when you are apart,  the better it is for you. You have all the freedom to assess the relationship and value it more. couples in  long distance relationships are proof that you don't have to see your partner everyday to fall in love every single moment. Except the love you share is highly dependent on physical looks and sexual Intercourse,  long distance relationships help you know your partner better if you are both open to each other.

Long distance relationships are also superb for one thing: you don't have family and friends interfering for a while. Both of you have all the time to yourselves to love and learn how to love each other properly before third parties begin to come in gradually. In order to avoid a long distance relationship fail, I have outlined in this blog post six proven ways to make the sail a safe,  exciting and romantic one.


1. Talk About the Seemingly Unimportant Things

The little details of living can help to foster intimacy when you discuss them. Talk about the new curtains,  your plan to buy an electric cooker,  what you think about the new data subscription bundle for your network,  why you chose to cook rice instead of beans. Long distance relationships do not only have to have serious conversations to appear 'purposeful'.  In fact,  the more serious your conversations are,  the more boring you would turn out as partners.

2. Establish a better Communication Pattern

Try to experiment and work around different methods and channels. Text,  email, chat,  call, video chat etc. One will surely be comfortable for both of you. Not understanding what works well for both of you may cause a glitch and that's why it is important to be particular about this aspect of the relationship. For partners living in different time zones, agree on what time 'd be comfortable for both of you. Each one of you may have to compromise as needed so that you get to talk at least once in a day.

3. Do Things Together

Pick a common book,  TV series,  movie etc. and see it together. Share your lessons and thoughts.Have fun laughing over a funny scene or one that reminds you of an awkward moment. This helps to facilitate bonding. Long distance relationships can also foster intimacy,  it depends on how you run it.

4. Avoid Overcommunication

Now care has to be taken here. Remember that we said that you should establish a communication pattern. There is always a temptation to make up for distance by excessively communicating and being in touch. Communicating doesn't mean talking 12 hours a day and talking about every damn thing. This kills the spice and reduces the mysterious expectation of your partner. Regulating and keeping a little distance helps you to miss each other and long for the next time you'd communicate.

5. Make Visits as Often as You Can

As often as you can visit each other. Make sure that whenever have a chance to get toget her,  make use of the opportunity. Holidays and days off work are best for seeing each other. Make it fun by planning surprises,  initiate romance by visiting places you would like to together. Let there be a little bit of spontaneity.

6. Practice Honesty and Transparency

Don't play games with each other,  that discourages trust. It doesn't help either of you to be manipulative. Playing smart doesn't help any relationship - short or long distance. The more transparent and open you are,  the better it is for your future. Let your partner know about an ailment that disturbs you. Date only one person at a time. Don't use the long distance as an excuse to cheat,  it affects smoothness in the relationship.

Long distance relationships can work,  are you willing to let yours? It's all about investing in your relationship,  so, learn from these tips and have fun with your partner. Love!
Source: http://www.estheradeniyi.com/2016/08/long-distance-relationships-proven-ways.html

Wednesday, 15 June 2016

As It Is In Heaven: Anxiety, Worry, Fear, Death and God


by Lance Hahn, from How to Live In Fear
Meet Lance Hahn
 
John 16:33
Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strengths. — Unknown

Know God Is Real

From my many experiences, I believe some of our anxiety and fear comes from an improper view of reality. I’m not saying our threats — real or perceived — might not be legitimate; I am saying that our reactions to these threats are often faulty.

Simply put, we think things we shouldn’t be thinking.

Worry and fear ultimately result from a belief that God is not actually in charge or that He doesn’t care about us. We don’t believe He is in authority or we believe He is not active in our lives. Yet neither of those statements is true. If we truly believed that God is good and He is sovereign, then we would be able to rest in these beliefs as facts. But we don’t. I’d like to believe I am above such thinking, but I struggle just like you.

Some of what is so terrifying to us links to one of our deepest fears: the fear of death. At the core of many panic attacks is the idea that we (or someone we love) will die. Why? What’s wrong with dying? I’m sure it’s uncomfortable, but if we believe the Bible, then it’s merely a transition from glory to greater glory. For the Christian, it’s a step up. Why all the fuss then? Because the unknown is scary — especially events that, once done, cannot be undone.

I’ve read the Bible countless times, I’ve studied death ad nauseum, and I’m still not okay with the concept. I want to be like some of the folks in my congregation who have the attitude of, “Bring it on!” I desire to be a “walking dead man” like the apostle Paul, who couldn’t wait to move on to be with Jesus. But I’m not.

Part of what’s standing in my way is this darn anxiety disorder. When I’m thinking clearly and not under its influence, I’m at peace with my mortality. When a panic attack is in full bloom, however, I’m absolutely terrified of death. On good days, my reasoning and theology tell me my life is in God’s hands and nothing can happen to me without His approval. But when I’m in a bad season, every little thing seems up for grabs and comes into question.

Did you know the Bible calls death an enemy? Right there in 1 Corinthians15:26 —

The last enemy to be destroyed is death.

Adam and Eve were told not to eat of the tree lest they “would surely die.” God made them to live forever, but sin wrecked that plan, and death was the result. Paul says Satan has used the threat of death as a bullying technique for millennia.

Part of what Jesus Christ came to do was defeat death, by rising from the dead and making a way so those who follow Him — His children — might never truly die. They will physically die, but their afterlife with God is already secured. Death’s only purpose then is to free us from this world so we might be placed safely in God’s arms, delivered and whole.

The bottom line is this: Jesus has done the extraordinary and has defeated death. He took the sting — the permanence — out of it. We no longer have to fear the ramifications of the end of life. When that truth travels the short distance from our brains to our hearts, our peace will grow.

One of my favorite stories in the Bible is about the Hebrew boys Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego (Daniel 3:1–18). They were commanded by a pagan king to bow down before his gold idol in honor of a false god. They refused to do so, so he ordered them thrown into a blazing hot furnace to be burned alive. Their response was brilliant. They said, and I paraphrase, “Our God can save us from this fire, but even if He doesn’t, we still won’t bow down to your false god.” I love that perspective. Maybe it’s one we can adopt in our hearts, one that says, “God can rescue us from all our dangers and fears. But even if He doesn’t, we refuse to bow down before the bullying enemy of fear, because we know all that’s truly important is already secured by God and that this life can’t do anything to us.” Wow! How powerful would it be if we lived that way?

This story is also proof that not all fears are irrational. It was not irrational for...

  • Daniel to worry about the lions’ den, because being eaten by large predators isn’t awesome.
  • Jonah to be freaking out inside a giant fish in the middle of the ocean, because usually that doesn’t end well either.
  • Jesus to be overwhelmed facing the cross in the Garden of Gethsemane, because what was in front of Him was unimaginable torment.
But those are the types of fears God tells us to set aside in light of who He is and what He can do. One of the greatest and most popular commands in the Bible is, “Do not be afraid.” Every time God repeats this phrase, the person He is speaking to has every right to be afraid. The danger is legitimate, but God’s presence overshadows all the facts. Faith is hanging on to the truth in the face of overwhelming emotional demands.

The fact is God is big — super big. He’s bigger than our problems, fears, worries, and anxieties. He’s actually more real than our chemically induced, warped views of life, our dysfunctional childhood patterns of thought, and our culturally derived, overblown views of who we are. There is nothing outside of His scope of authority. There is no problem too small that He would miss it or too big that He cannot solve it.

Consider the following examples:

God was the One who spoke the universe into existence. Nothing was preexisting. He made it all — from nothing. Lack of materials and resources has never been a concern for Him.

In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. The earth was barren, with no form of life; it was under a roaring ocean covered with darkness. But the Spirit of God was moving over the water. — Genesis 1:1–2 CEV

When the world fell into sin, the Almighty didn’t sit back and ponder options with the angels. He merely put into place the plan of redemption that was prepared before the foundation of the world. God is always ahead of the curve. Nothing catches Him by surprise. No limitations sway Him. For those of us who fear, this is great news.

In the beginning was the one who is called the Word. The Word was with God and was truly God. From the very beginning the Word was with God. — John 1:1–2 CEV

When God decided to flood the earth and start over with His one true follower, Noah, and his family, He initiated a plan in advance for Noah to build a boat and fill it with all species of animals (Genesis 6). Who else would have thought of that?

When Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego were thrown into the fiery furnace to be burned alive, Jesus showed up in the fire to rescue them (Daniel 3). Who else would have thought of that option, much less actually done it?

When 185,000 Assyrians surrounded Jerusalem to destroy it, one angel wiped them out while they were sleeping (Isaiah 37).

When Haman was going to slaughter the Jews, God used a beauty queen on the inside to turn the tables and free His people (Esther 5).

And how could God have possibly transported the reluctant prophet Jonah to Nineveh? Boat — storm — giant fish — barfed up on the beach (Jonah 2). Really? Yes, really.

God is not fazed by our problems. But we are. In fact, we freak out. So many of our anxieties aren’t based in reality, but they feel real to us. What’s the solution? We must work on getting our heads back into the game of reality — God’s reality — the One who came up with and pulled off every scenario I listed above.

As I was going through one particularly bad season of life, my counselor shared a few thoughts that had an impact on me. She said, “The promise of a secure, positive final outcome allows peace in the present.” The promise of a future deliverance allows us to dwell in what she called “impending safety.” We are all familiar with “impending doom,” but what if the very presence of God and our relationship with Him demanded that we view things in light of impending safety?

What if knowing the end of the story helped us to embrace true life in the midst of the story? What if we really believed the truth that the Enemy is not stronger than our Comforter?

* * *
If God says we are ultimately safe, then we are, regardless of how we feel about it.

Whether our challenges and threats are fact or fabricated, our response must be to keep our eyes on Jesus and off the waves, exactly what Peter did when he walked on water to Jesus. We choose that perspective — the miraculous, not the mundane. The Enemy might be able to lure or tempt us to fixate on our problems, but it’s our choice to refocus on our only solution: the Lord. We must ground ourselves with a solid view of who God is.

A lot of my battle with fear and anxiety is waged in my mind, in my thoughts. I am fighting a war that no one else even sees. Where my mind goes is where my body tends to follow. If I think anxious thoughts, then my body tenses up and restricts my breathing. If I can shift over to thinking about the freedom, victory, and rescue that God provides, I might get a shot at finding peace.

God gave us the ability to rally our thoughts back to reality. God tells us to keep our minds fixed on Him. He tells us that instead of looking at our troubles, we should stare unwaveringly at His face. And when God gives a command, it’s a sure sign He has given us the ability to take action. Praise the Lord — we have a fighting chance!

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. — John 16:33 NIV

Wednesday, 25 May 2016

Vocation: Glorifying God by Serving Others


by Tim Challies and Josh Byers from Visual Theology
 
James 1:17
There are times when the Bible is sublimely practical. In his first letter to the church at Corinth, Paul offers this instruction:

Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. — 1 Corinthians 7:17

This instruction implies that God has made each of us uniquely and assigned to our unique lives with unique roles. Our responsibility before God is to understand the gifts, the skills, and the passions He has given us and to use those in fitting ways — in ways that do good to others and, in turn, bring glory to God.

This is exactly why God has put us into this world: to bring glory to Him by doing good to others. He says as much in Matthew 5:16:

Let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in Heaven.

Jesus’ good friend Peter wrote,

Keep your conduct among the Gentiles honourable, so that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation. — 1 Peter 2:12

There is a clear flow here:

God gives us gifts; we use our gifts to do good to others; and through it all, God gets the glory.

When you evaluate your gifts, skills, and passions, you are close to discovering what you might call your vocation or calling, the particular ways in which God means for you to glorify Him by doing good to others.

Perhaps no contemporary Christian has done more to rediscover and celebrate the waning concept of the vocation than Gene Edward Veith. Through his books and a host of articles, he has told Christians what their forebears already knew: The doctrine of vocation tells Christians how to live in this world. But it goes farther than that, to explain how God is at work in this world. He is at work through the people He has created.

When we pray the Lord’s Prayer, we ask God to give us this day our daily bread. And He does. The way he gives us our daily bread is through the vocations of farmers, millers, and bakers. We might add truck drivers, factory workers, bankers, warehouse attendants, and the lady at the checkout counter. Virtually every step of our whole economic system contributes to that piece of toast you had for breakfast. And when you thanked God for the food that He provided, you were right to do so.1

When you thank God for a piece of toast, you are not only thanking Him for the food you are about to eat, but for the people, the skills, and the processes that got it from the field to the plate. You are acknowledging that God has provided through these remarkable means.

God chooses to bring about extraordinary provision through ordinary people and ordinary means. And this is exactly what God does in the world. God could have created all of the humanity by drawing them out of the dust as he did Adam and Eve. Instead, He chose to work through the vocation of family, the ordinary means of mothers and fathers and sexual union. God protects us through His provision of government. God heals us through doctors and nurses. God teaches us His Word through preachers and teaches us facts through schoolteachers. “It is essential in grasping the magnitude of this teaching,” writes Veith, “to understand first the sense in which vocation is God’s work.”2 It is God’s work completed through human beings.

We can advance one more step to see that God “is hidden in vocation.” Our eyes show us the farmer as the provider of food, the doctor as the provider of health care, the pastor as the provider of spiritual nurture, and the driver as the provider of transport. But if we look at them through the lens of vocation, we will see that “God is genuinely present and active in what they do for us.”3 And you will see that God is genuinely present and active in what you do for them. You need to look at and live your own life through the lens of vocation.

I want to point to three important applications that provide essential guidance as you live for Christ in this world.

You Have Many Vocations

You do not have just one vocation, but many. A great misunderstanding about vocation is that each of us has just one: I am a pastor or I am a mechanic or I am a homemaker. But a thorough understanding of vocation teaches us that we all have many areas for which we are responsible before the Lord.

I am a citizen of Canada and have the vocation of the citizen. I live in the town of Oakville, where I have the vocation of neighbour. I am married to Aileen and have the vocation of the husband. Together we have three children, which assigns to me the vocation of the father.

And then I hold the vocation of pastor at Grace Fellowship Church and the vocation of the writer. My vocation is each of these and the sum of these. Individually and all together, they are a platform from God that allows me to extend to others the goodness and kindness of God on behalf of God. And whenever I do this, however, I do this, God receives the glory.

You, too, have many vocations. You are a citizen, a son or daughter, a neighbour, a church member. You may also be a mother or father, a husband or wife, a worker or manager. Some of these vocations are more important than others. Some demand great swaths of your time while some demand much less. But right there in the mix of them is your calling before God — who you should be and how you should live out the days God has given you.

No matter what your vocations are, they all carry the same great purpose: to do good to others and bring glory to God.

Vocation Brings Dignity

The doctrine of vocation brings the utmost significance and dignity to your work. When we understand that vocation is extending the goodness and grace of God to others, to serve as the “mask of God,”4 we understand that in a sense all vocations are equal. All of them have the highest dignity.

The dignity of work does not come from the amount of skill necessary to do the job. It does not come from the importance of that work for the functioning of a nation or society. The dignity of work comes from the source of that work, which is always God Himself. The doctor who operates within the deepest recesses of the human brain is in the same line of work as the person who hauls away the trash from the end of the doctor’s driveway. They are both working on behalf of God. They are both in the business of extending God’s care to other people.

My wife and I have often spoken about her frustrations with her vocation of caring for our home and family. It is not that she has ever wanted to do anything else or that she feels trapped in a life she did not choose. It is simply that her work is difficult and repetitive and, in many ways, unrewarding.

What brings help and hope is this doctrine of vocation — the fact that she is serving as a kind of conduit for the goodness and grace of God. When she fulfills her vocation, she is doing God’s work on God’s behalf. God wants us to bring order to a chaotic world, and Aileen brings godly orderliness when she keeps the home. God wants to care for those who are hurting, and Aileen brings his care and tenderness when she bandages a child’s knee. God wants to extend help to men who are overwhelmed by life’s circumstances, and he extends this help through her. She is the means of God’s providential care.

And so are you in your vocation. If God has gifted you with a logical, orderly, mathematical mind, then you extend an aspect of God’s concern for this world when you design buildings or bridges or software. If God has gifted you with an eye for colour and an instinct for design, then you extend an aspect of God’s concern for this world when you create beautiful art or design a slick new product branding. God could have arranged the world in such a way that He would do all of these good things Himself. Instead, He assigned them to human beings, so you do this work on His behalf.

Your vocation is your day-by-day opportunity to glorify God by serving others and, in that way, serve as a faithful representative of the God who glorifies Himself by serving others.

There is one more thing we should say about vocation, and it is this: Vocation leads to worship. It is meant to lead to worship.

We worship God through vocation when we do the things God made us do and when we observe other people doing what God made them do.

Have you ever watched a mother carefully nurturing her child and caught just a glimpse, a reflection, of the love and care of God? Haven’t you seen at least a glimpse of the mind of God in a beautiful design or a glimpse of the artistry of God in a great work of music or art? These glimpses are meant to draw you beyond themselves to worship and praise God Himself. And these glimpses are meant to motivate you to joyfully carry out your vocation, to do God’s work on God’s behalf. You bring worship and glory to God when you serve others with the skills, gifts, and passions that God has given you. And you give opportunities for others to glorify God as they observe you working on His behalf.

Vocation also leads to worship when you praise God for the way He cares for you through others. You have no reason to look down on the man who picks up your trash each week. On the contrary, you have every reason to praise God for His care for you that is extended through that individual. When I am going through a particularly difficult time and my wife brings me comfort, it is really God bringing me comfort through this beautiful means He has provided. I ought to thank my wife, but ultimately, I ought to praise my God. The love and care and comfort I receive from her flows from the source of all-perfect love, care, and comfort. After all,

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. — James 1:17

She is the means, but He is the source.

Conclusion

Who has God made you be? What gifts, skills, and passions have God given you? What roles and responsibilities has he assigned to you? Your vocations are found right there. Each one of them is to be done out of love for God and for the good of people He has created in His image.

Thursday, 19 May 2016

Joyful Confidence in God: The Dark Night of the Soul
by John Ortberg, from Soul Keeping

 Restore me to the joy of your salvation. — Psalm 51:12

Psalm 51:12

When God Seems Silent

Because the soul is the deepest expression of the person, the soul is the place of greatest pain. We do not speak of the dark night of the mind, or the will, or even the spirit. Only the soul. The dark night of the soul.

The phrase comes from a brilliant Carmelite monk named John who lived in Spain in the sixteenth century. He devoted his life to reforming the church, but his attempts were heavily criticized, and he ended up in prison. It was there in confinement, with his dreams lost, that he wrote his most famous work: The Dark Night of the Soul. It is an account of how God works to change us not just through joy and light, but through confusion, through disappointment, through loss. Because of his commitment in the midst of suffering, he became known as “St. John of the Cross.”

The dark night of the soul, as he described it, is not simply the experience of suffering. It is suffering in what feels like the silence of God.

This saint who bore the name of the cross of Jesus said that in the early days of spiritual life, the soul often finds delight in devotional activities: We love to read the Bible, we hunger for worship, we long to pray. We may think this is a sign of our maturity; it is really more a kind of honeymoon phase.

“But there will come a time when God will bid them grow deeper. He will remove the previous consolation of the soul in order to teach it virtue...” In the dark night, my prayers feel like they reach no higher than the ceiling. (Although, Dallas {Willard} often said, if we truly understand how radically present God is in our world, reaching the ceiling is more than high enough.) In the dark night, the Bible I read turns to ashes. In the dark night, words and books and songs that once spoke to my soul now leave me cold.

It is important to understand that the dark night, as John writes about it, is not the soul’s fault. of course, it’s possible for me to grow cold toward God because I cling to sin, or prefer an idol, or simply become lazy. These are all real occurrences that require a wise response. But they are not the dark night.

The dark night is God-initiated.

There’s an old illustration that was used to teach uninterrupted intimacy with God as the norm for successful spiritual life. It never failed to add guilt to spiritual dryness. It is a picture of intimacy with God that’s as old as bench seats in the front of cars. A husband and wife are driving together. She says to him: “When we were dating, we used to sit next to each other while we drove; you would have your arm around me, I would lay my head on your shoulder, and I felt so loved. Now look at the distance between us.” And the husband replies: “Who moved?”

In the dark night of the soul, it is God who moved.

God may still be in the car. But He’s scrunched up small and pressing hard against the passenger door. I stretch my arm but I can’t reach him or feel Him or touch Him. My soul has not changed seats. God moved.

Waiting in the Dark

The practices that once fed my soul feed it no more. John of the Cross, writing from his prison cell, says in the dark night the soul is pained but not hopeless. “God’s love is not content to leave us in our weakness, and for this reason, He takes us into a dark night. He weans us from all of the pleasures by giving us dry times and inward darkness.... No soul will ever grow deep in the spiritual life unless God works passively in that soul by means of the dark night.” We have a hard time with the dark night. Our churches are practical places, and we generally tell people the answer to any spiritual problem is more: more prayer, more serving, more giving, more trying.

But John says just the opposite. When the soul begins to enjoy the benefits of the spiritual life and then has them taken away, it becomes embittered and angry. There are some who become angry at themselves at this point, thinking that their loss of joy is a result of something they have done or have neglected to do. They will fuss and fret and do all they can to recover this consolation. They will strive to become saints in a day. They will make all kinds of resolutions to be more spiritual, but the greater the resolution, the greater the fall.

Their problem is that they lack the patience that waits for whatever God would give them and when God chooses to give. They must learn spiritual meekness, which will come about in the dark night.

What do we do in the dark night?

We do nothing. We wait. We remember that we are not God. We hold on. We ask for help. We do less. We resign from things, we rest more, we stop going to church, we ask somebody else to pray because we can’t. We let go of our need to hurry through it.

You can’t run in the dark.

We love psalms about restoring our souls. They are sometimes called psalms of orientation — psalms that help us direct our lives to God. But there are other psalms. After we learned of Dallas’s diagnosis, my wife delivered a message based on what Walter Brueggemann calls “psalms of disorientation.” These are the psalms where the soul is disoriented; God is absent; darkness is winning. “Break the teeth in their mouths, o God... Let them vanish like water that flows away... like a slug that melts away as it moves along, like a stillborn child that never sees the sun.” That’s one that doesn’t get used at a lot of prayer breakfasts. Eugene Peterson once wrote that before we can love our enemies, we have to pray our hatred. In these psalms — which are more frequent than the psalms of orientation — Israel vented and boiled over at God, apparently believing He was secure enough to be able to take it.

Nancy talked about an unmarried friend who once punctured the polite piety of a small group Bible study that was having an abstract discussion about “Where is God when it hurts?” With the honesty rarely seen in Bible study groups, she declared, “If Jesus thinks that three hours on a cross makes up for forty-two years of singleness, I think that’s crazy.”

Cool!

Nancy waited for the group to get swallowed up by a sinkhole. Eventually, someone chirped in with a Christian cliché, and the moment passed. But there was more honest faith in that one real comment than all the safe platitudes that came before and after it.

In my own darkest time some years ago, my greatest disappointment was deep and unfixable. I questioned my calling. I didn’t think about suicide, but I definitely thought that if my life were over, I’d be grateful for the end of pain. I would talk to a few close friends, and they would generally give sympathy and support, for which I was grateful.

But then I did what I have so often done when I cannot think or pray or reason my way out of something. I called Dallas. I walked him through the circumstances and the heartbreak and the pain, eager for his answer.

Long pause. “This will be a test of your joyful confidence in God.” Silence. I did not miss the challenge in this sentence, all the more goading for its gentle phrasing. Not just my confidence — my joyful confidence. Human beings around the globe had been suffering a year ago, and I was capable of joy then. Why should I consider my own suffering grounds for a crisis of confidence in God when I don’t react the same way to others?

If there is a God who is worthy to be the Father of Jesus, I can trust giving this situation as well as my own feelings joyfully into His hands. If there is not, I have infinitely bigger problems than a merely human circumstance. Either way, it is true: this will be a test of my joyful confidence in God.
Joyful Confidence in God: The Dark Night of the Soul
by John Ortberg, from Soul Keeping

 Restore me to the joy of your salvation. — Psalm 51:12

Psalm 51:12

When God Seems Silent

Because the soul is the deepest expression of the person, the soul is the place of greatest pain. We do not speak of the dark night of the mind, or the will, or even the spirit. Only the soul. The dark night of the soul.

The phrase comes from a brilliant Carmelite monk named John who lived in Spain in the sixteenth century. He devoted his life to reforming the church, but his attempts were heavily criticized, and he ended up in prison. It was there in confinement, with his dreams lost, that he wrote his most famous work: The Dark Night of the Soul. It is an account of how God works to change us not just through joy and light, but through confusion, through disappointment, through loss. Because of his commitment in the midst of suffering, he became known as “St. John of the Cross.”

The dark night of the soul, as he described it, is not simply the experience of suffering. It is suffering in what feels like the silence of God.

This saint who bore the name of the cross of Jesus said that in the early days of spiritual life, the soul often finds delight in devotional activities: We love to read the Bible, we hunger for worship, we long to pray. We may think this is a sign of our maturity; it is really more a kind of honeymoon phase.

“But there will come a time when God will bid them grow deeper. He will remove the previous consolation of the soul in order to teach it virtue...” In the dark night, my prayers feel like they reach no higher than the ceiling. (Although, Dallas {Willard} often said, if we truly understand how radically present God is in our world, reaching the ceiling is more than high enough.) In the dark night, the Bible I read turns to ashes. In the dark night, words and books and songs that once spoke to my soul now leave me cold.

It is important to understand that the dark night, as John writes about it, is not the soul’s fault. of course, it’s possible for me to grow cold toward God because I cling to sin, or prefer an idol, or simply become lazy. These are all real occurrences that require a wise response. But they are not the dark night.

The dark night is God-initiated.

There’s an old illustration that was used to teach uninterrupted intimacy with God as the norm for successful spiritual life. It never failed to add guilt to spiritual dryness. It is a picture of intimacy with God that’s as old as bench seats in the front of cars. A husband and wife are driving together. She says to him: “When we were dating, we used to sit next to each other while we drove; you would have your arm around me, I would lay my head on your shoulder, and I felt so loved. Now look at the distance between us.” And the husband replies: “Who moved?”

In the dark night of the soul, it is God who moved.

God may still be in the car. But He’s scrunched up small and pressing hard against the passenger door. I stretch my arm but I can’t reach him or feel Him or touch Him. My soul has not changed seats. God moved.

Waiting in the Dark

The practices that once fed my soul feed it no more. John of the Cross, writing from his prison cell, says in the dark night the soul is pained but not hopeless. “God’s love is not content to leave us in our weakness, and for this reason, He takes us into a dark night. He weans us from all of the pleasures by giving us dry times and inward darkness.... No soul will ever grow deep in the spiritual life unless God works passively in that soul by means of the dark night.” We have a hard time with the dark night. Our churches are practical places, and we generally tell people the answer to any spiritual problem is more: more prayer, more serving, more giving, more trying.

But John says just the opposite. When the soul begins to enjoy the benefits of the spiritual life and then has them taken away, it becomes embittered and angry. There are some who become angry at themselves at this point, thinking that their loss of joy is a result of something they have done or have neglected to do. They will fuss and fret and do all they can to recover this consolation. They will strive to become saints in a day. They will make all kinds of resolutions to be more spiritual, but the greater the resolution, the greater the fall.

Their problem is that they lack the patience that waits for whatever God would give them and when God chooses to give. They must learn spiritual meekness, which will come about in the dark night.

What do we do in the dark night?

We do nothing. We wait. We remember that we are not God. We hold on. We ask for help. We do less. We resign from things, we rest more, we stop going to church, we ask somebody else to pray because we can’t. We let go of our need to hurry through it.

You can’t run in the dark.

We love psalms about restoring our souls. They are sometimes called psalms of orientation — psalms that help us direct our lives to God. But there are other psalms. After we learned of Dallas’s diagnosis, my wife delivered a message based on what Walter Brueggemann calls “psalms of disorientation.” These are the psalms where the soul is disoriented; God is absent; darkness is winning. “Break the teeth in their mouths, o God... Let them vanish like water that flows away... like a slug that melts away as it moves along, like a stillborn child that never sees the sun.” That’s one that doesn’t get used at a lot of prayer breakfasts. Eugene Peterson once wrote that before we can love our enemies, we have to pray our hatred. In these psalms — which are more frequent than the psalms of orientation — Israel vented and boiled over at God, apparently believing He was secure enough to be able to take it.

Nancy talked about an unmarried friend who once punctured the polite piety of a small group Bible study that was having an abstract discussion about “Where is God when it hurts?” With the honesty rarely seen in Bible study groups, she declared, “If Jesus thinks that three hours on a cross makes up for forty-two years of singleness, I think that’s crazy.”

Cool!

Nancy waited for the group to get swallowed up by a sinkhole. Eventually, someone chirped in with a Christian cliché, and the moment passed. But there was more honest faith in that one real comment than all the safe platitudes that came before and after it.

In my own darkest time some years ago, my greatest disappointment was deep and unfixable. I questioned my calling. I didn’t think about suicide, but I definitely thought that if my life were over, I’d be grateful for the end of pain. I would talk to a few close friends, and they would generally give sympathy and support, for which I was grateful.

But then I did what I have so often done when I cannot think or pray or reason my way out of something. I called Dallas. I walked him through the circumstances and the heartbreak and the pain, eager for his answer.

Long pause. “This will be a test of your joyful confidence in God.” Silence. I did not miss the challenge in this sentence, all the more goading for its gentle phrasing. Not just my confidence — my joyful confidence. Human beings around the globe had been suffering a year ago, and I was capable of joy then. Why should I consider my own suffering grounds for a crisis of confidence in God when I don’t react the same way to others?

If there is a God who is worthy to be the Father of Jesus, I can trust giving this situation as well as my own feelings joyfully into His hands. If there is not, I have infinitely bigger problems than a merely human circumstance. Either way, it is true: this will be a test of my joyful confidence in God.